If you did not know me and my husband created a local fitness social group called #Woofpack in Grand Rapids, MI for Gay men. We are up to 22 members more than 80% are very active and I am so thrilled with the success of it all! This community is so in need of positive platonic relationships between gay men that isn’t centered around dating and bars and I feel good about where we are so far!
I had a few thoughts about leadership and mentorship that was made apparent by running this group.
#1 I was impressed that I could keep my standing as a leader even though I am not the fittest person in the group, which honestly I did not expect. I think a good leader always assumes he SHOULD be the best at something in order to lead, but I think that anxiety is driven by heart, which is the real value of a leader.
#2 The power of having both mentees and mentors in your life is crucial to making a difference. If I were doing this alone I might talk about my goals to my husband, to my co-workers maybe a few friends which is great, but it can lead to major feelings of disappointment if you fail. Seeking out people with a similar vision to mine, and having them physically join me to achieve something good for everyone has motivated me more than ever. Each week I post a #ManspirationMonday not just for how they look but I research what they have achieved and what these men do each day to get better. Them and my husband I consider my mentors, people who achieve a lot in the field of fitness and health. It isn’t just enough to be inspired though, you also have to inspire others which is the real fast track to success. Celebrating with others, and developing a tribe is the best way to goal-set and be successful, we often need other people to change our lives with us.
#3 You have to protect your vision with conviction. I’m learning that it just simply is not O.K. to let people share negative opinions with you about your goals. Goals and achievements change people, changing your lifestyle changes yourself, and that is perfectly fine. Just like having mentees and mentors that share your vision can help in a huge way, the people that want to keep you the same, or the people who bring negative opinions into your space are extremely toxic. I myself am a little “to nice” and although I want to make a positive influence on everyone’s life I am learning that a lot of people are just not ready to be inspired, they are not ready to change for the better. I have even gained some enemy’s which is a new thing for me and I don’t always handle it well because I want to be friends with everyone. The truth is it is almost guaranteed to happen that people will be jealous, and will try to find fault with you if you are achieving something that they are not. Although it isn’t easy, you HAVE to argue with those people and your HAVE to get rid of them. It is your personal responsibility to yourself to put as little turbulence as possible between you and your goals!
It has been a wonderful learning experience so far, and I am so proud of these wonderful men who are helping me to change my life!
Thank you #Woofpack for all you do!